Unnecessary restraint and anger at children spoil their character. (Photo: file)
The six or seven-year-old was trapped on the roof of a room in the backyard, constantly calling his mother. He probably jumped into the game from the balcony that was under construction on the second floor, which was barely two or three feet high. But now it wasn’t possible to go back up and down and obviously couldn’t jump.
Now he was calling his mother helpless because the servant was calling God helpless. The whole scene was visible from my kitchen window.
The mother replied from inside the house: I will not come. Get down on your own and go down as you like.”
“Mama, come please, I’m stuck.” The child said in an appreciative voice.
“Come as you went. And if you come here, I will not leave.”
The child began to cry in the heat of the sun and the fear of the mother. “If Papa comes now, you’ll know.” The mother increased the threat to the child. The child began to cry regularly.
My food was cooked so there was no reason to stay in the kitchen anymore. I thought for the last time I would see what the kid was doing. The baby was now crying silently and trying to jump and peek.
After a few minutes, the child began to scream in fear of the father, “Uncle, Uncle, is anyone there?” Finally the worker heard a voice, perhaps he was working on the second floor. The worker reached out to the infant from the balcony with both hands and grabbed him by the arms and pulled him up. The child sighed and said at a young age, “Uncle, don’t tell dad.” The worker laughed and said, “Are you afraid of the father?” The child nodded emphatic. And the worker took him inside this part under construction.
what happened after that? If you think about the very painful outcome of this story, God willing, there is no such thing. The worker must have returned to work and the child must have gone to his mother. But what you think is not impossible and of course many accidents happen when a child or his parents start to trust people they shouldn’t be. And they don’t get the help they need.
From childhood to adolescence, when a child is in trouble, it is usually the “come here, I won’t leave you” attitude that distances them from their parents. As a result, instead of seeing them as his friends, he considers them as enemies and drives them away from them. Hiding and lying to parents is a normal part of life. Obviously, when you yell and get angry at your child for saying something wrong, he will convince you that he didn’t do something like that. He will be ashamed to admit his mistakes and shortcomings. As a result, bad decisions, bad company, and bad habits can become their doom.
Anger is certainly a natural process and there is no human being who does not get angry. But its expression is the limitation that makes up your personality. According to Bahadur Shah Zafar
Zafar is a man who will never know him, no matter how smart he is
Whoever does not remember God with luxury and does not fear God in anger
We usually treat people outside the home with great kindness and politeness who have no influence on our worldly and worldly lives, but we have a very unfriendly attitude towards those who love us very much and deserve attention and the meaning of the hadith is that your goodness is the one who has mercy on his family.
And if you think your baby can’t do that, it will be reported that all these changes happen gradually in an imperceptible way, even when they come true, the water passes through the head. Mature habits. The foundations of relationships weaken, and the child’s personality does not develop tolerance, tolerance and generosity.
One of the biggest misconceptions in our society is that children are trained through speech. The truth is that training is the best practice. The child makes himself in the mold he sees you in. When he sees you yelling and hitting on every mistake he makes, he will treat the people in his life almost the same way, and he won’t learn to forgive and forgive.
The building of society consists of individuals. Therefore, a society full of quick-witted and extremist human beings would be intolerant and extremist.
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